#EmotionalResilience

Coping with change requires more than simple adjustment to new circumstances. It calls for a reorganisation of internal experience, particularly when familiar structures of identity, routine, or relationship are altered. From a psychotherapeutic perspective, change can activate deeply held expectations about safety, belonging, and control. The nervous system often interprets uncertainty as potential threat, even when the change is desired. Anxiety, irritability, or emotional withdrawal may therefore emerge as adaptive responses rather than signs of fragility. When individuals understand these reactions as meaningful signals, they can begin to engage with change in a more reflective and less reactive manner. In the therapeutic space, the task is to develop an observing mind that can notice shifts in mood, thought, and bodily sensation without immediate judgement. This involves cultivating tolerance for emotional complexity and allowing contradictory feelings to coexist. One may feel

Adaptation and Identity: The Inner Work of Living Through Change

Coping with change requires more than simple adjustment to new circumstances. It calls for a reorganisation of internal experience, particularly when familiar structures of identity, routine, or relationship are altered.

Feb 192 min read

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Why We Don’t Pass the Tissue in Psychotherapy (And No, It Is Not Because We Are Mean)

Psychotherapists are taught not to hand out tissues when someone is crying. I always find myself cringing when a therapist is shown...

Jul 18, 20252 min read

Billi Silverstein
Psychotherapy

Adaptation and Identity: The Inner Work of Living Through Change

Why We Don’t Pass the Tissue in Psychotherapy (And No, It Is Not Because We Are Mean)

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