Billi Silverstein
Psychotherapy

There is a long-standing joke about Californians discussing their therapists as casually as the weather, everyone seems to have one and it is almost a badge of self-awareness. The American idea of having an analyst is woven into the culture of personal development and emotional literacy. While it is often seen with humour, there is a deeper truth behind it. Therapy is not only for those in crisis but for anyone who wants to understand themselves more deeply and live with grea

Avoidance is one of the most instinctive human responses to fear. When something feels overwhelming, whether a memory, a situation or even a thought, turning away can bring a temporary sense of safety. In the moment it may feel protective but over time this very act of avoidance nourishes the fear it is meant to contain. I call this the Voldemort Effect. In the Harry Potter stories, the refusal to speak Lord Voldemort’s name transforms it into something unspeakable.

Fear is one of the most fundamental human emotions. It serves a vital evolutionary purpose, alerting us to danger and helping to ensure our survival. Yet when fear becomes persistent or disproportionate, it ceases to be protective and instead becomes limiting. Fear often lies at the root of anxiety, panic, intrusive thoughts and even compulsive or addictive behaviours. A question I am frequently asked is what is the antidote to fear.