Billi Silverstein
Psychotherapy

For many, this discomfort has roots in earlier life. Growing up exceptional, whether academically, creatively or aesthetically, often brings praise and a sense of safety. Over time, achievement can become entwined with identity. Being outstanding is not simply something one does, but something one is. When adulthood introduces a peer group of equally accomplished women, that identity is challenged. Admiration for another may sit alongside a subtle fear of displacement. Fascin

Those who don’t watch Love Island may find themselves wondering, “Where are my people?” It’s not simply about television taste; it’s often about belonging. In psychodynamic terms, these moments tap into deeper relational patterns. Feeling like an outsider can reawaken early experiences of exclusion, perhaps from the family system, school friendships, or social groups where one felt misattuned.