keeping secrets is a universal experience and can protect your sense of self by keeping good and safe boundaries. Being too secretive can create problems in your relationships which can be unhealthy and rigid. Whilst some of us revel in sharing our news, both negative and positive, others find it necessary to keep almost everything a secret. Most of us wish to celebrate our achievements and others choose to mask them.
Recent research suggests that we keep an average of 13 secrets at any one time. These secrets usually relate to pride. Our human condition requires us to hide anything that would promote ourselves in a negative light. Most people keep secrets because they fear being judged. For some, the fear of being judged is so acute that they stop revealing almost everything about themselves and develop a secretive personality. In extreme cases, some people present a false self in place of their real self and deny fundamental things about themselves including their job, their hobbies and even where they live. Sometimes this characteristic can be formed as a result of a desire to appear mysterious and can develop into a chronic personality trait. It can also develop where individuals, at certain stages of development, were praised for their privacy. Such behaviour can manifest as a result of partnership secrecy and the fear of being discovered or learned behaviour from family members. Having a secretive personality does not necessarily mean it runs along a dual diagnosis with traits such as narcissism. It can be a personality trait all of its own. In psychotherapy we explore diversity of experience with empathy and without judgement www.billisilverstein.co.uk. #Therapy #Trauma #Psychotherapy #Counselling #EatingDisorder #OCD #Overeaters #Depression #PersonalityDisorder #BloodlinePersonalityDisorder
I’m always so impressed with people who come into therapy and open up about the deepest of experiences and share their emotions. It’s a privilege for me to be a part of their journey into exploration and recovery. I don’t call recovery ‘healing’. Therapy is more of an exploration into the depths of raw vulnerability and learning to cope with these raw emotions. What I’ve learned is without vulnerability we have no hope of benefiting from the freedom of fear and it is this same fear that holds us back. We are so protected that we often miss out on the joys of life. In therapy we teach ourselves skills to manage pain and regulate mood. If you are ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery then contact me for a consultation assessment. I deal with anxiety, depression, trauma personality disorder together with OCD and I have a special interest in overeaters. In psychotherapy, we explore diversity of experience with empathy and without judgement. Www.billisilverstein.co.uk #Therapy #Trauma #Psychotherapy #Counselling #EatingDisorder #OCD #Overeaters #Depression #PersonalityDisorder #BloodlinePersonalityDisorder
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