Billi Silverstein
Psychotherapy

Fear is one of the most fundamental human emotions. It serves a vital evolutionary purpose, alerting us to danger and helping to ensure our survival. Yet when fear becomes persistent or disproportionate, it ceases to be protective and instead becomes limiting. Fear often lies at the root of anxiety, panic, intrusive thoughts and even compulsive or addictive behaviours. A question I am frequently asked is what is the antidote to fear.

Those who don’t watch Love Island may find themselves wondering, “Where are my people?” It’s not simply about television taste; it’s often about belonging. In psychodynamic terms, these moments tap into deeper relational patterns. Feeling like an outsider can reawaken early experiences of exclusion, perhaps from the family system, school friendships, or social groups where one felt misattuned.

The “disease of more” is not just a cultural issue or a personality flaw. It is a deeper psychological and existential condition, a sign that we have become disconnected from ourselves and from what gives life meaning. At its heart lies a constant urge to seek fulfilment through accumulation: more success, more possessions, more experiences, more recognition. But behind this craving is often a discomfort with simply being ourselves.

Psychotherapists are taught not to hand out tissues when someone is crying. I always find myself cringing when a therapist is shown...

Clinical supervision plays a vital role in the development and sustainability of effective practice. At its core, clinical supervision is designed to create a safe, supportive environment where practitioners can critically reflect on their work. This reflective space allows individuals to not only enhance their clinical skills and knowledge but also to maintain their emotional and psychological well-being amidst the demands of their roles.

“No psychologist should pretend to understand what he does not understand... Only fools and charlatans know everything and understand...

The distinction between being fascinated and seeking to fascinate others has significant psychological implications.

From a young age, women are socialised to be self-sufficient, nurturing and impeccably organised, setting the stage for unrealistic demands.

Being able to laugh at the same things with your partner creates shared moments of joy and connection.

In the context of therapy refer to the conscious choices and behaviours that align with a person’s core beliefs, principles and goals, guide

Are people who have affairs victims of their own internal chemical system?

Step 1 = Use grounding exercises to help feel more grounded-(box breathing, senses exercise, plays back against the wall)

- [ ] Challenge negative self-talk - [ ] Regularly test your beliefs? - [ ] Create a positive and healthy self-view - [ ] Establish healthy boundaries - [ ] Learn how to self-soothe - [ ] Generate emotional regulation and frustration tolerance - [ ] Practice communication skills - [ ] Give yourself routine and structure - [ ] Exercise accountability - [ ] Trust yourself - [ ] Find time to be playful - [ ] Empower yourself with self-compassion and self-awareness - [ ] Establ

Juggle a career at the highest level, be the best chief, have the best possible home, the cleanest environment, be the fittest, slimmest,...

We like to hold ourselves up to certain standards, but our actions do not always match up…. At times, we may gossip yet have a belief...

We are meant to evolve out of attention seeking behaviours. For some this happens at the toddler stage. If however, their needs are not...

Limerence describes the experience of having an uncontrollable desire for someone. An obsession that consumes a person’s thoughts,...

When we give too much, it can be detrimental to our health both emotionally and physically. It can also lead to a toxic relationship of...

When you express sympathy, it can lead to feelings of being misunderstood and judged. When we relate with sympathy, we move into...

Without the right training therapists run the risk of re-traumatising. Clients may shut down and dive into deep depression and cause...